Stop watching the news!  Stop reading newspapers!  The newspapers and TV stations are full of bad news that lulls us into arriving at the bizarre conclusion that we’re not all that crazy when compared to others.   But that’s only the news.   What about so-called “reality TV” – so-called “normal” people entertaining us with their bizarre behaviour? These programs are dangerous for what’s left of your mental health (I say “what’s left” because research more...

If your life isn’t all that you want it to be or if you’re unhappy with yourself – what you think is going on has nothing to do with reality!  Decades of research prove that the normal subconscious mind quite literally makes up your reality for you – nothing to do with the real thing, just a mish-mash for crap (what some people call baggage) mainly from our formative years. So, if you actually want to live the life that you really and truly want to live, you’re going to have more...

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could flick a switch to change your life?  What if you could simply press a button to achieve your hopes and goals?  Well, if you look around the internet a little – not much searching required, you will find personal development websites that suggest that changing your life can be just that easy.   Naturally, there’s no such thing as a quick fix when it comes to living the dream – otherwise everybody would be doing it.  But even more...

So many people struggle against things that they can do nothing about.  So many people become upset or annoyed about things over which they have no control.   And oh so few people take control of the one thing in life over which they can exercise absolute and total control.   Like puppets, we allow our mood to be pulled up or down in tandem with the ups and downs of life. But the downs – or even just the “not-too-bads” – that we encounter are what they more...

I’m constantly hammering on about how so-called “normal” people are mad and that it is up to each one of us to “stop the madness”.    Having recently spent a day chatting with some “advanced clients” in relation to how quantum physics elegantly describes how our universe, our world and our little bit of it – your daily life and mine – really works.    What we put in – in energy – we get back out.   If, like normal people, you put almost nothing in (bear in mind more...

A couple of months back, the New York Times ran a series of articles entitled “Driven to Distraction” – all about how road accidents are mostly the result not paying attention.  Again, Loughborough University in the UK has just published research that indicates how we are distracted from what we’re supposed to be doing by texts and emails.  The research indicates that most are replied to immediately – often within six seconds. more...  

We’re all called upon to be leaders – if you have children, people reporting to you at work, friends who confide in you – leadership is required of you.   You mightn’t call it that, but that is what it is.  Above all, we’re called upon to lead our own lives.  Yes, we’re called upon to be leaders and few wish to shoulder the responsibility.  Most normal people will look to someone else – if not for leadership, then for blame.  It’s the bankers’ fault that my business is more...

Let’s start this post by quoting 50 Cent – yeah, the rapper 50 Cent – who said “Most people can’t handle boredom.  That means they can’t stay on one thing until they get good at it.  And they wonder why they’re unhappy.”
The problem is that we live in a world where we expect instant results.  If we’re hungry, we want fast food, if we’re feeling down we want instant gratification – hence the proliferation of so-called anti social behaviour brought on by more...

As the song goes “Ooh heaven is a place on earth”!  And, to further enhance my point, quote the late Cardinal Cathal Daly who made the point in his wonderful book, “The Minding of Planet Earth” that heaven is not a place that you will find when you die – the only place that you will find heaven is in the time-less here and now.  What does that actually mean?  Well, it’s very similar to the question asked of me by many clients: “Is there really such thing as reality and more...

Quite obviously, success means different things to different people – their specific objectives are unique to themselves, their loved ones and their circumstances.  However, far too often, definitions of success are based on the norms of the society in which we live – we use the achievements of society’s apparently successful people as our barometer and, as a consequence, our definitions of success become comparative, competitive and, all too more...

It’s quite amazing how often people tell me that you’re suffering from low self-esteem or that they’d like to build their self-esteem.  More often than not, I simply tell them to get a grip – “Get real” is the key message if you want to build self esteem - because low self esteem is only a problem for people who don’t know who they really are. Your self image is just that – an image or, more correctly, a collection of images, a little like a good old-fashioned family more...

Many people reading so-called personal development or self improvement articles or self help books will know all about the concept known as the Law of Attraction – that you attract into your life the things that you want out of life.  Many such articles or books tell great feel-good stories about how the whole process has worked, seemingly effortlessly, for some people – shining examples of people who live the dream. And yet I’d be very wealthy if I had a more...

I recently spoke to a client who told me that he was plagued by useless thought – distractions, negative thoughts, worries, even fears.  The first thing that I said to him was that he could count himself among the horribly small minority who are actually aware that they’re thinking useless thoughts.  After all, psychology proves that the so-called normal mind is dead to the world, running on auto-pilot, totally unaware – unaware of pretty much everything, more...

We seem to be built to worry – it appears to be an integral part of our hard-wiring.  And, if we can’t find something to worry about, we’ll invent it.  I once had a client telephone me to say “Now I’m really worried!”  When I asked what he was actually worried about, he replied “I’m worried because I’ve nothing to worry about!  You know how something this good cannot last!”  Another extraordinarily focused client who, like a lot of business people, is finding more...

A clear mind is the only state of mind worth being in.   It means you appreciate what’s actually happening around you and places you in a position to act – rather than react, which is what we normally do.   A clear state of mind alerts you to the opportunities of the moment so that you can grasp them.  On the other hand, a normal muddled mind won’t notice opportunities at all.   And a clear mind, focused in the here and now enables your subconscious lead more...

The normal adult is slowly sucking the life out of themselves on a daily basis.  This process started in childhood when we were told to conform, to sit up straight, to stop making noise, to stop doing the things that turned us on and to steer clear of fanciful ideas for our future – we needed to get a good education, get a good job, retire and die! As children, our spontaneity, our joie de vivre, our unbridled imagination – these were the things that ruled our lives – more...

Meditation is often misunderstood.  When I first mention it first to clients, the usual reaction I get is “Oh that’s little unusual” – or “abnormal”.  First of all, it’s very important to be abnormal because there’s a wealth of psychological research that, when taken together, proves that normal people are mad – their mind controls them, not the other way around.  So, when I get the “That’s abnormal” reaction, I tell my clients “That’s the whole point!” On the more...

Too many people are wasting time and energy wishing, hoping or wanting for something different or great to happen in their lives.   Well, if you’re one of those people, here’s a suggestion: pull yourself together and create the life that you really, really want – right here, right now. You see, years of research prove that your subconscious mind creates your daily reality.   Of course, you’re not aware that that’s what’s happening – it’s subconscious!   But, just more...

I spent some time with a client last week who talked of his fears for the state of his business, how he was afraid of what others would think of him if his business collapsed and how he was afraid of where is marriage was going.   Although he believed his problems to be unique (don’t w e all), the conversation reminded me of many that I have had over the years.   It reminded me of the proliferation of media commentaries at present that “markets are gripped by fear” more...

If you want to change something in your life, you’re going to have to do it yourself.  The sixty-four thousand dollar question is, of course, what is “it”?  What action are you going to have to take to create the life that you want?  Because – and you must realize this – your life, your success and your happiness is in your own hands.  So, is your failure or dissatisfaction! As a long-standing client said to me recently, “I realized that if I wanted to change my life, more...

Since 1996, in my two-day workshop, I’ve asked participants if they think that they’re perfect.   No-one answers “Yes”.    It’s damn difficult to motivate yourself if there are things about yourself that you don’t like.   And, indeed, chances are that there are things that you don’t like about yourself that you’ve been meaning to change but never do.   After all, research shows that most people have similar New Year’s Resolutions from one year to the next! more... 

There’s nothing nicer than a pat on the back – being told you’re great or that was a job well done.  It makes us feel better about ourselves.  But you should feel good about yourself regardless. Unfortunately, we’ve all been raised on a highly addicted drug – the drug of approval.  We need to feel that we’re “in”, that people like and notice us.  We worry about what others think of us – but we shouldn’t waste our energy – most people don’t think about us at all more...

Years of psychological research shows that normal people are not in control of their subconscious mind – the part of your mind that controls your life – instead, the normal subconscious calls the shots!  If there was ever a definition of lunacy, that’s it!  Being normal is nothing to be proud of – and hanging around with other normal people will get you nowhere.  Sure, you might think that it’s cool to be accepted, to be one of the gang, but you’re doing yourself more...