If you're life isn't where you want it to be, chances are that God is playing an active role in ruining your life. It's not that God wants you to experience hurt or distress, it's just that God is ever responsive to our expectations and intentions. And psychology shows that normal people expect very little out of life - and, consequently, get very little. God helps those that help themselves and the truth of the matter is that normal people have simply not got enough interest in helping themselves...