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| How to Focus Your Mind to Change Your Life |
| Over seventy years of psychological research proves conclusively that we live automatic lives. “Automaticity” is what psychologists call our extremely efficient ability to perform routine tasks without paying attention to them. Stop for a moment to reflect on how much attention you paid, this morning, to brushing your teeth, showering, shaving, walking or driving. Do you drive today the way you drove the first time you ever sat behind a steering wheel? We learn our routine tasks in two ways... |
| How to Live Life to the Full |
| The normal life is peppered with ups and downs - often it seems that there are more downs. Yet science tells us that the way we live our lives creates the very lives we live. We're told that the energy of the universe responds to our energy while, at the same time, we know that we devote very little of our energy to living, prefering to pay subconsious attention to the past. But it is in the present where life is to be lived... |
| Boring Minds - Boring Lives |
| Normal people (that's most of us) lead normal, mundane lives. Most people are unhappy in their work. Successful people think they paid too high a price for success. Few people are truly happy. Why? Because we're boring. We do the same things, most days, habitually. Our minds are bored because we're so well equipped to do our routine tasks automatically. The same automaticity bores our minds. And boring minds create boring lives... |
| So Many Self-Help Books - So Little Change |
| Bookshops are full of "popular psychology" and "self-help" books - yet most lives stay the same and the world appears to be in a bigger mess than ever. The problem is that an intellectual understanding of "self-improvement" books is not enough - and, in fact, can be quite dangerous. You need to experience the difference between being "normal" and the "altered state of mind" in which you can clearly see the way towards happiness and success... |
| No More Stress |
| You'll always find something to get stressed out about - it's the way we are. But it's our default state of mind that creates stress, not outside events or challenges but how we perceive them and then react to them. You've got to break the useless habit of an adult lifetime, stop jumping to the kind of conclusions that lead you away from reality and into the world of self-induced stress. You've got to come to your senses here and now - all five of them! |
| How to Build Self Confidence |
| Trying to build your self-confidence is like papering over the cracks in a building that doesn't exist. The voices in your head that tell you "know you can't" are neither real nor relevant to here and now. You need to stop giving them your attention by paying attention, instead, to the present moment. If you're more present, you develop your presence - the hallmark of all those successful people who know better than to focus of self-confidence. |
| Labels Kill! |
| "Normal" behaviour is dictated by our subconscious which, "normally" is focused in the past - when we were young and impressionable. One of the most destructive normal behaviours is the way we label people. We offend, hurt and kill each other because of those "labels". And, yet, that behaviour is just a big bad habit, developed over thousands of years. The good news is that we can break even the biggest habits by breaking little ones first... |
| How to Build Self Esteem |
| Self esteem is an illusion - whether you're suffering from low self esteem or you're on a high - the concept is a creation of your personality - and your personality isn't real - it's a mask that hides you from your own inner potential. Understand this, take a little "exercise" to side-step your personality and - lo and behold - you'll find the real you - and all you're really capable of... |
| Why is it so Important to Live in the Present? |
| Are there benefits to living in "The Now" as described by Ekhart Tolle? Or would we be better off living our normal lives where we sometimes reminisce about the past or look forward to the future? Well, if you're not focused in the present moment, how will you be able to do your very best? Will universal energy bother to respond (as quantum physics proves it does) if you don't bother to turn up? The only time and place to live is here and now... |
| How to Focus Your Mind: Real Self Help |
| It's strange that you wouldn't consider leaving home naked in the morning, but you'd have no problem leaving the house mentally unprepared for the day ahead - that's what most people do, it's normal. As a result, the normal life is mundane and often worse. But five minutes focusing your mind, first thing each morning, will completely change your life. This article discusses the type of focus required and how anyone (that includes you) can do it. |
| Learning How to Control Yourself |
| Normal people are out of control. Instead of reflecting and considering what is the best approach to handle all the various challenges that life throws at us, we react automatically and mindlessly. As a result, we create an automatic life which is way short of the life we could otherwise have. We need to regain control. This is done by relearning how to pay attention. This is done by coming to our senses. You have five of them - use them... |
| The Dangers of Recognition |
| Recognition - the psychological process by which we make sense of everything that is going around us. Or do we? Could it be that one of our key psychological "abilities" results in us making nonsense of what is really going on? Does it result in us misbehaving as a result of our automatic ability to react? Worse of all would you recognise an opportunity if it stared you in the face? For "normal" people, the answer is generally "No". Read on... |
| Alternative Medicine |
| The world needs new approaches. The state of "normal" relationships, "normal" businesses and "normal" lives leaves a lot to be desired. The greed hasn't worked, the nation state hasn't done anyone any favours - it's time for you to take some "alternative medicine", to find new ways (that are in fact age-old) to motivate yourself, achieve uncommon business success and create the life that you really want. You need to change your state of mind... |
| Normal People are Lazy |
| Normal people are not uncomfortable enough to do anything to break out of their mundane, repetitive lives. They complain that they don't like their jobs, they spend their lives telling others that they're "not too bad", but they never do anything to be really successful and happy. And that could all change effortlessly. If I told you that a commitment of ten minutes each morning would change your life beyond recognition, would you be interested... |
| The Fine Art of Communication |
| Communication is about making an impression. Yet technology deludes us into thinking that we have become great communicators - email, text, Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook, Blackberries, enables us send information. But does it make any real difference, is anyone listening? Your success and happiness is effected by your ability to communicate - to make a good impression. Develop your presence and you will become the ultimate communicator... |
| What Normal People Want |
| Surprisingly, by their actions, normal people don't want success or happiness - they want to stay "not too bad" and want abnormally successful people to be normal too. There's no one more threatening to a normal person than someone who "has it all" and, yet, research proves that normal people are technically insane. Which would you choose - effortless success in your business and personal life - or to be normal and not too bad? No choice really... |
| The Psychology of Staying Positive |
| This article was originally published in the Life Insurance Association's monthly magazine, "The Professional" in July 2009. Here, Willie Horton, explores how we can make best use of a clear and present mind to move beyond the herd mentality, to go beyond positive thinking, to be able to ride out whatever storm life might throw at us and, in the end, achieve extra-ordinary success - effortlessly... |
| How to Escape the Boring Routine |
| People lead routine, boring, mundane lives - or so they think. Yet, this apparent reality is a figment of the so-called normal mind's imagination - routine and boredom are nothing but useless thoughts. They seem real because the normal mind never pays attention to the here and now - it is lost in a version of the now created by out-dated mental programs. But you can effortlessly break away from boredom and routine |
| How to Get What You Want Out of Life |
| Did you know that your subconscious mind creates your daily life, based on pictures it has stored since your childhood? Did you know that, if you could give your subconscious new "photographs" of the life that you really want, it would focus on those in the same way and create new behaviours and a new life? In this article you will find simple instructions, that anyone can follow, to set your subconscious off in the direction your heart desires.. |
| How You Are Who You Are |
| We are victims of our upbringing because our formative years formed our frame of reference for our view of what’s possible or not possible and our strengths and weaknesses. Most importantly, our early years are the subconscious basis for our adult behaviour. Our subconscious pays attention to that past, rather than the present moment – so we miss out on what’s really going on now – we miss out on life’s opportunities that could well be staring us in the face... |
| Changing Inappropriate Behaviour |
| Normal people don't know how to behave themselves - inappropriate behaviour abounds. But don't confuse your inappropriate behaviour with who you truly are, because your behaviour is dictated by your programmed subconscious mind. It's time to take back control of your mind. Then, your inappropriate behaviour will simply fade away and you will be the better person for it. Take back control by re-learning how to pay attention to the here and now... |
| Finding Your True Passion |
| The normal life is lived on auto-pilot. The lucky few search for greater purpose - some seek out their passion. But passion isn't to be sought, it's to be found - it finds you. The normal mind is ill-equipped to decide what is best for us in life. Rather, we must clear our minds, present ourselves to the here and now and benefit from the proven consequences. Then, we can live life with a true passion... |
| Choices |
| Whether or not you’re having a beautiful day is up to you – it is a choice you make. Everyone, whether they’re aware of it or not, is constantly making life-changing choices. These choices are made moment to moment. You choose whether to be fully effective and present or, if you’re normal, you choose to devote your mental attention to your formative past. These choices are only subconscious because you haven’t realised that you can make these choices deliberately. Deliberate choices will also change your life – but, unlike your subconscious choices – on your terms... |
| Crazy Parents - Crazy Kids |
| Normal adults are crazy. Research proves that they live their lives automatically, paying little or no attention to what they're doing or what's really go on. That means that normal parents are raising their children - automatically and mindlessly - to become, just like them, normal crazy adults. But this is not inevitable. We can all learn from our children, for they, as we did, have the natural ability to mindfully experience the wonder of now |
| You Simply Need to Turn Yourself On! |
| The average person drifts through life in a mindless daze, so says many years research. They waste their mental energy on listening to the noise in their heads - noise that distracts, little voices that say "No you can't!". Yet the only thing that we can control in our lives is our state of mind. If we do, we unleash an inner potential that is capable of transforming our lives into the success we want. We need to stop listening to the noise... |
| How to Make a Great Impression |
| If you're worried about making a good impression, you're not! To make a great impression requires singlemindedness - something that the normal person knows precious litte about. You need to have presence which simple means being more present in the moment than everyone else. But your "normal" mind is working against you - you need to train it in the art of paying attention to the here and now... |
| How to Beat Stress |
| External events or people do not cause you stress - your thoughts and reactions to what you think is going on cause you to think you're stressed. As a responsible human being, you have the power to choose which thoughts you will focus on. In other words, you choose to be stressed. You've got to turn your focus somewhere else (because only an idiot would choose to be stressed) - turn it to the only place and time there is - here and now. |
| Your Potential is in Your Own Hands |
| Energy responds to your expectations. Unfortunately normal people expect very little out of life. They expect to get a good education and a job, retire and die! But, if you expect something different, something exciting, something different will happen. Quantum physics terms it The Law of Potentiality - and it is a call to action for anyone who wants anything out of life - your success is up to what you expect... |
| Overcome Your Fear to Achieve Effortless Success |
| The world is in the mess it's in becuase enough normal people think that's the way it should be. Science proves that we get what we expect. It also proves that, if we expect something different, something different will indeed happen. We need to step outside the norms of how we use our minds, stop our minds abusing us and start using our mental power for our own true benefit. It is in this way that highly successful people are highly successful - and we can be highly successful too... |
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